Touble with sister

[Tori]

I'm looking for some points of perspective on a conversation, okay~arguement with my sister. A little back round first . . . my sister and I are both in our early thirties and I've been talking care of her children every week for six years in my home daycare. I've always had a pet in my home. Today I asked her if when she comes in if she will just ignore my 6 month old puppy as part of her training and not interact with her; now I'm asking this of all the families that I watch, keep in mind. My sister immediately started in on how it's not her dog and she's not about to train it for me. I said fine and tried to drop the issue. She continued with the fact that she has allergies (i understand allergies i didn't ask her to pet the dog or anything just not acknowledge her when she walks in the door) and "Maybe I should just pull the kids, it's nothing but problems with you anyway" her words. I was blown away~ I bend for her so much~she has a discounted rate she pays for daycare, if she needs me to I watch the kids after hours with little to no notice-weekends even, & she can have off when ever she wants without penalties. I love those kids. They are family but I'm tired of being treated like a door mat from my sister. Can anyone help me to gain respect from my sister before we end up enemies?

[Patty Mosso]

Thats a hard thing to deal with, Family always is a hard thing to figure out whats the best thing for Like I know with my Brother he exspects my mom to jump for him, And watch his kids all the time, But the second she watchs mine, He has something to say. I am not close to my brother we have been through alot, And since the passing of are Oldest Brother its gotting alot hard to be around him, Because he never helped out with Shawn, And Im the youngest, I felt like he should of stepped up. And he dident but took all the credit at the funeral. I oftne think that best way to fix fights with a sibling is to try and talk it out. But I Just cant do that with him, If you and her are close you should try telling her how you feel. Or if you are so upset at least wait until you are more calm. You may say something you dont mean if you are still really upset. And I would just let her know, What it is that is bugging you the most. But dont scream or make a rude comments, Just talk it out. And if that dont work. Well. I guess you can do what I did. Just give a brake from it, Ans see what happens. I hope this helps some....
Patty M